HOW TO SOLVE PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE
How to solve marriage problems is one task every married person should devote time to every passing day.
Today let us talk about how to solve marriage problems that people come across in their relationships and some of the things that bring them.
Many people come to baba with different problems and they talk about them freely since they are sure they will get a solution to them.
Today all around the world, it is the truth that marriage and relationships are not the bed of roses that they were once were.
WHY ARE TODAY’S RELATIONSHIPS FULL OF PROBLEMS?
Today people enter into marriage before building strong relationships.
Most of the people in traditional societies entered into arranged marriages.
Thus the question of who you will marry and when was left into the hands of the elders who knew better.
But now with the rise of rights and more self-awareness, it is only sensible that someone has the freedom to choose who to marry out of love.
But unfortunately, where one would expect a strong relationship or marriage borne out of free will, it is always the opposite.
Let us look at some of the reasons why this is so?
WHY MORE MARRIAGES ARE BREAKING DOWN TODAY
This is a universal question.
Believe me, nowhere in the world is the marriage institution safe or as beautiful as it was two decades ago.
Everyone in a relationship is looking for something.
People in marriage, are so selfish and individualistic yet the bond is meant to be shared by the couple as one.
Some people no longer enter into marriage because of love, they enter because it offers them security.
Today people look more at what society will say, than what their lovers want.
This is why a person will marry a rich person as opposed to a poor lover or one who can’t provide.
Relationships are built on what one can offer, or what they bring to the table.
How then can we expect such bonds to survive these modern times?
Secondly, people marry for their beliefs more than for themselves.
Today the church and other religious institutions put more effort on conducting more marriages regardless of the intention of lovers.
That is why you will find that for ten marriages conducted every day, there are 20 marriage counsellors obtaining certificates in the practice.
This phenomenon is more pronounced in less developed nations.
You will find that people with love and marriage problems are filling the counsellor’s office every hour of the day and on top of that, they are paying highly for these counselling services.
FOUR THINGS TO CONSIDER TO AVOID PROBLEMS IN YOUR MARRIAGE
Give The Relationship Time, Don’t Rush.
You do yourself good service if you are patient in love.
Many people think they don’t have time or that their lovers will be snatched, or that their lovers will move on too fast.
All these are fallacies, if the person you are in love with, feels the same way for you, you will not have to worry about him or her leaving you soon.
More so, what is surprising is that you will even realize that true love will come to you slowly.
The person who loves you will appreciate the fact that you want to commit to marriage after understanding what is required of you.
Understand What You Want In The Relationship.
Is it money? Is it a marriage partner? Is it a sex buddy?
Is it a lifelong commitment you are looking for?
Some people fall into wrong marriages because they fail to know what they really want from the relationships.
Nobody has said that every relationship should end in marriage.
All you need to do is to be true to yourself.
Do not lie to yourself that things might work out in a certain way, if you have never meant them to work out in that direction.
If its money you want from the relationship, stick to that plan. If it’s the sex, enjoy that! If its marriage later, then work towards marriage.
This will help you to avoid a number of problems later in marriage.
The challenge here is that you will have to talk to your lover about your expectations.
I can’t tell you how much people fear that talk! Nobody wants to confront the truth, especially if it will come with judgment.
Marry For Love, Not Money
And if you decide to marry, don’t ever marry for money!
This is simply because money has proved to be something temporary. Yet you are building a permanent bond.
Therefore, you can’t build something permanent on something temporary, it’s that easy!
Communication in Marriage Is Key
Lovers in marriage don’t communicate!
That is the biggest shortfall in most relationships.
People tend to get used to each other and they no longer see the value of constant interaction.
Apart from talking about the normal needs of a family, married couples rarely talk about their love life to each other.
Some of them would rather talk about their marriages in WhatsApp groups than talk about it with their lovers.
Is such a trend safe?
Not at all! As lovers you need to talk to each other every day and every opportunity you get, about your love life.
If you want to enhance communication to your lover and tips on how to bring him or her around to talking to you, talk to Baba Musa today.